Ten on Sunday

Life is pretty crazy sometimes... I am doing my Ten on Tuesdays on Sunday, because I just feel like it.

1-What I thought was an amazing week turned out to be an amazing week that went ALL downhill in one night. I won't go into it because I don't have any desire to cry, or fight over it tonight.

2- The weather is nice! I actually felt heat off of the sun while being outside, not in a car, and it was amazing!

3- I spoke in church today, and I feel as if I did very well. I didn't get shot, suprising enough as it is. I thought for sure that I was, but it turned out that most people liked it.

4- I about stormed up to the MTC on Thursday! hahaha I usually get a letter from Adam on Thursdays, and when I got home on Thursday there wasn't one!! I was not happy, so I texted Sherri (Adam's mom) and asked her if she got one, so we decided that we were going to go and jump him for making us wait ALL day for the mailman just to find out that we didn't have one,

5- I ended up getting a letter from Adam on Friday, so it was all better after that. He cracks me up!! He writes me the same thing 3 different times!! One way in script, another in romanized version of Thai, and then English, because I don't understand a word of it!!

6-One more week left of school! I am so excited that I can barely think straight!!

7-I think that is all I am going to add my talk to this as well so if you want to read it continue on... it is pretty long, but hey it lasted me about 10 min, so it works! :) Have a good week!

Hi, my name is JaNae Reid, and I have a story behind this talk that I wanted to start off with. For the last couple of months I have became more and more sensitive about how guys treat women. For those of you who know me well you know that this subject is one that I will get very touchy about, and down right mean, because I have a total of zero tolerance for it. When I was in Jr. High I was friends with some people who had no respect for women or God. Once I hit high school I met "my boys" and before people get weirded out by that statement I will explain… I wormed my way into a group of 6 boys, and then there was me… since I was the only girl I pretty much adopted them, and they became "my boys" so now that that is cleared up, I will continue. "My boys" came from homes where their mom's were treated with respect, and it was the male's responsibility to take care of the females in the house, or wherever there were females around. Going from the 2 extremes of no respect for girls and complete respect for girls it got pretty interesting. I found myself fighting over a dollar bill, because I refused to let them buy me ice cream. If I didn't let them open my door, they would chase me down, put me back in the car, close the door, and then open it for me. There were countless times when "my boys" would hear someone talk trash about me, or any girl for that matter, and I would have to restrain them because they just did not tolerate it. After 3 years of pretty much becoming the princess I learned that as a daughter of God I deserve respect. So I just have a quick question for all of the young men, and since we are in Sacrament meeting I won't make you raise your hand or stand up or anything along those lines even though that would be amazing. But,

How many of you young men want a wife that is confident, free from doubts and fears about who she is and what she believes in?? Someone who won't worry about what they look like or if they sound right? I will assume that all of you want that in a wife, if you don't then I know someone who would LOVE to talk about that with you, right bishop?? However, in this day and age guys make it almost impossible for women to feel confident.

President Hinckley in his talk called "Living Worthy of the Girl You Will Someday Marry." Pleads with the young men saying "Keep yourself free from the stains of the world. You must not indulge in sleazy talk at school. You much not tell sultry jokes. You must not fool around with the Internet to find pornographic material. You must not dial a long-distance telephone number to listen to filth. You must not rent videos with pornography of any kind. This salacious stuff simply is not for you. Stay away from pornography, as you would avoid a serious disease. It is as destructive. It can become habitual, and those who indulge in it get so they cannot leave it alone. It is addictive." I want to address something that may hit some people close to home, and in all reality I hope that it does because I am sick of feeling the way I do.

Whether a guy is looking at pornography, saying to one of his guy friends, or just thinking in there head, about how long it has been since they got some action, it is the exact same thing, and you honestly have NO idea how much that hurts girls who are trying there hardest to maintain there standards so she can both please her Father in Heaven, and find a worthy husband. You may not think that girls don't find out that you think or talk in such a way that degrades women, but we sure aren't stupid. Before I get shot while standing up here, I do want to say that not EVERY guy is like this, but for those few who aren't, you need to let your voice be heard, because all girls are hearing is how guys just want to "get some." There is nothing more degrading then hearing that come out of a guys mouth. PLEASE Brothers don't think that way. Girls are not just toys, they are daughters of God who deserves to be respected.

I was listening to the radio the other day and a song came on that I am sure several of you have heard. I love this song, it says
The Declaration of Independence
Think I could tell you that first sentence
But then I'm lost

I can't begin to count the theories
I've had pounded in my head
That I forgot

I don't remember all that Spanish
Or the Gettysburg address
But there is one speech from high school
I'll never forget

Come on in boy sit on down
And tell me about yourself
So you like my daughter do you now?
Yeah we think she's something else
She's her daddy's girl
Her momma's worldShe deserves respect
That's what she'll get
Ain't it son?
Hey y'all run along and have some fun
I'll see you when you get back
Bet I'll be up all night
still cleanin' this gun

Well now that I'm a father
I'm scared to death one day my daughter
Is gonna find
That teenage boy I used to be
That seems to have just one thing on his mind

She's growin' up so fast
It won't be long before
I'll have to put the fear into
Some kid at the door

Come on in boy sit on down
And tell me about yourself
So you like my daughter do you now?
Yeah we think she's something else
She's her daddy's girl
Her momma's world
She deserves respect
That's what she'll get
Ain't it son?
Hey y'all run along and have some fun
I'll see you when you get back
Bet I'll be up all night
Still cleanin' this gun

Before I address the girls, I want all of you guys to think of this song. Right now you are the guy who has to take some daddy's little girl out on a date or you are the guy who is thinking nasty thoughts about his little girl. Now put yourself in the Fathers position… some teenage boy comes to the door to pick up your little girl and you know exactly what is going through their mind because you know, you were a teenage boy once too. I can almost guarantee you that you would have a tolerance of zero for some punk kid who wants to just "get some action" or who is thinking nasty perverted thoughts about your daughter. So PLEASE Brothers, treat all girls like you will want your little girl that you love dearly to be treated.

Now girls it's our turn. We need to remember that there are guys out there who want a modest, beautiful young woman…I honestly believe that if EVERY girl were to dress modestly and act as if there Heavenly Father were standing right there next to them, that guys would have no reason to think anything besides how much they love Daughters of God. It is a well-known fact that girls have more control over guys then we can even imagine. If we all stand together, and let guys know that we are completely disgusted with how they act then I believe that it would stop, to a degree that would help us feel some kind of value. Girls PLEASE realize that there is some guy out there that is looking for a daughter of God who is modest, and who knows who she is. If you haven't found him yet keep searching, I know he is out there.

I have a testimony of the Gospel, I know that this is God's true church and that we can live with out Heavenly Father again. I also know that each one of us are Sons and Daughters of God, and that he loves us and wants us to feel our worth. I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.